The Truth About Emotions Most People Never Learn

There is something fundamental about emotions that most people have never been shown.

Not everyone experiences emotions the same way — and most of the confusion people have about their emotional life comes from assuming that we do.

We are given advice as if there is one correct way to feel, process, decide, heal, or move through life. But emotional experience does not operate by sameness. It operates by mechanics.

In Human Design, roughly half the population has a defined emotional system, and the other half does not. This single difference changes everything about how emotional truth works.

If your Solar Plexus is coloured in on your body graph, you generate emotional energy from within yourself. Your emotions move in a wave — rising, falling — from hope to pain and back again. This movement is constant. It is not something to fix. It is how awareness develops within you.

If your Solar Plexus is white, undefined, or completely open, you do not generate emotions in a fixed way. Your system is open. You take emotional energy in from other people and from the environment, amplify it, and experience it intensely — even though it did not originate in you.

The mistake most people make is applying the same emotional rules to both experiences.

And that is where misunderstanding begins.

Defined Emotions: Why Clarity Takes Time

For emotionally defined people, emotions are not signals of truth in the moment. They are a process that reveals truth over time.

Emotional awareness does not arrive instantly.

It is an awareness that develops over time.

Imagine a full spectrum of colour. At any given moment, you are standing inside only one colour — one emotional frequency — even though the entire spectrum exists.

You feel what is present deeply. But you are never seeing the whole picture yet.

Clarity only comes after the wave has moved.

Emotional intensity — both the highs and the lows — creates cloudiness in your awareness. When emotion peaks, perception becomes coloured. When emotion drops, perception becomes heavy and narrow. In both cases, clarity is temporarily obscured.

Nothing is wrong here.

You are just not meant to find truth inside of emotional intensity.

You are waiting for clarity.

And each point on the wave reveals a different perspective on reality. As you move through highs and lows, awareness deepens. You see from multiple angles. You gather an emotional depth of intelligence that cannot exist any other way.

And this leads to one of the most important truths an emotional being can learn:

There is no truth in the now.

When you feel low, everything looks wrong.

When you feel high, everything looks aligned.

People change. Opportunities change. Decisions feel obvious — until the wave moves and everything looks different again.

The problem is not emotion.

The problem is making permanent decisions from temporary emotional positions.

Saying yes because you feel amazing.

Saying no because you feel terrible.

Later, clarity arrives — and regret follows.

For emotional beings, time is law. Waiting is not hesitation; it is correctness. Sleeping on decisions is wisdom.

Your awareness comes after the feeling, not during it.

Undefined and Open Emotions: Feeling What Isn’t Yours

If your emotional centre is undefined or completely open, your experience works entirely differently.

You are not producing a consistent emotional wave.

You are receiving emotion.

Open centres take in emotional frequencies from people, environments, and the collective field — and then amplify them. What enters you becomes louder, stronger, more intense.

This is why technically ‘un-emotional’ beings can appear deeply emotional — overwhelmed, suddenly tearful, intensely reactive — and then, just as suddenly, the emotion disappears as if nothing happened.

Because it passed through.

It was never yours to sustain.

Amplification creates distortion, like turning a speaker volume up too high until the sound breaks apart. When you identify with what you feel, those borrowed emotions stick. They grow. They linger.

But properly working open emotional system is designed to be more like a window, not a container.

Energy is meant to move through you — not stay.

Your wisdom does not come from owning emotions, but from allowing them to pass through.

Conditioning Is Not a Bad Thing

Emotionally defined people generate emotional frequency. Simply by being themselves, they shape the emotional atmosphere around them.

Conditioning here is not negative. It is mechanical.

Defined beings create the emotional field.

Open beings experience and amplify it.

And when you begin to see this clearly, the illusion of our existential separateness starts to dissolve.

Our emotional reality is shared. Interactive. Co-created.

We are constantly influencing one another, completing energetic experiences for each other within a shared field of consciousness.

And this is where understanding emotions stops being psychological — and becomes mechanical.

Two Different Emotional Truths

For emotionally defined people, emotions are correct to honour — but never to rush. Awareness comes through time, movement, and allowing the emotional wave to reveal clarity.

For undefined and open emotional people, wisdom comes through non-identification — feeling fully without attaching, allowing emotion to pass without becoming the self.

Two completely different mechanics.

Two equally valid paths to awareness.

And this is where so much confusion begins.

Because most advice given in the world assumes sameness.

We are told to regulate the same way. Process the same way. Trust feelings the same way. Heal the same way. Decide the same way.

But sameness does not work — because we are not the same.

What helps one person creates distortion in another.

Telling an emotional being to “decide in the moment” disconnects them from their clarity.

Telling an open emotional being to “trust every feeling” traps them in emotions that were never theirs.

This is the contradiction people feel but cannot explain.

Human Design reveals something radically different.

It is the science of differentiation.

It shows that correctness comes from operating according to your own mechanics — not from following dogma, trends, or universalised spiritual rules designed for everyone at once.

Differentiation becomes the antidote to confusion.

Because once you understand how you are actually designed to move through life, the contradictions disappear.

Advice stops fighting itself.

And being yourself stops feeling like something you are doing wrong.

The Real Invitation

Whatever emotion you are feeling right now is not the full truth.

It is one moment inside a much larger field of awareness.

For emotional beings, truth arrives with time.

For open beings, truth appears the moment identification falls away.

And when you truly see this, something profound becomes obvious:

We are not separate emotional worlds.

We are moving through one shared emotional field — discovering awareness through each other.

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By Harry Van Koll

harryvankoll.com.au